OK-ness

spectrum

Doing well

You’re doing well, and that’s wonderful. Whatever you are doing to manage stress and handle what life brings your way is working. Now might be a good time to reach out and check-in with someone who may not be doing as well as you. And it’s always good to remember that everyone experiences ups and downs, so be sure to appreciate the ups when they happen.

What to do when you’re doing well: 

When you are doing well, do a little inventory and figure out what you have been doing to get you here, and keep it up. To maintain your state of mind, here are some more actions to take:

  • Continue to practice stress management skills
  • Take time to help others.
  • Engage in an enjoyable activity.

Holding up

You’re holding up, and that’s ok. Your system is under a little stress, things might not be going as smoothly as usual, but you’re doing your best and keeping things together as best you can. It’s important to acknowledge you’re here, give yourself grace, and recognize that periods of stress may come and go.

What to do when you’re holding up:
When you are holding up, it's especially important to be intentional about recognizing and responding to your needs. Take note of what helps you feel calm, connected, and capable, and make time for those things regularly. Lean on meaningful support and engage in activities that help you recharge and regulate stress.

  • Call a relative, friend, or colleague
  • Set a positive goal for the day
  • Take a brisk walk

Struggling

You’re struggling a bit, and that’s ok. Life may be making it harder to do the things you need to get done. The main thing to remember is that periods like these are temporary, and there are things you can do to take care of yourself and begin moving in a more positive direction.

What to do when you’re struggling:
When you are struggling, connecting with trained colleagues and professional resources can help make a big difference, especially if you do this early on. So as soon as you notice yourself in this state, connect with someone who can help.

  • Reach out to relatives, friends, and colleagues
  • Focus on what you can control 
  • Build up your reserves with healthy sleep

Needing Help

You’re needing help, and that’s ok. Sometimes life can feel overwhelming, and there comes a point when it can all be too much to manage on your own. It’s ok to not be ok. The most important thing is to get help when you need it. There are resources available and people ready to support you and help you through this moment.

What to do when you’re needing help:
When you're needing help, you may be feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, emotionally exhausted, or like it's becoming difficult to manage things on your own. Remember that you don't have to navigate these challenges alone. Professional support is available, things can get better, and reaching out for help is an important step.


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